The Science of Happiness: Why Complaining is Literally Killing You

Hi SoCal!  I found this article on Facebook yesterday and want to share it with our adolescent masses.  Here’s the gist of it, and the rest is down below, “Your thoughts reshape your brain, and thus are changing a physical construct of reality”.  How cool is that!!?  We have the power to reshape our brain with our own thoughts!

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the power of positive thought and positive words.  I hear a lot of complaining in the gym, particularly among teenage girls.  “Life is so hard, my parents don’t get me, my teacher like, hates me, I have cramps, I’m tired, my BFF and I got in a fight”…Don’t get me wrong guys, I haven’t forgotten that angsty, difficult, confusing teenage time of  life, but at the end of the day, we don’t have THAT much to complain about.  In fact, I’ve recently challenged my teams to not complain for the entire duration of their time in the gym.  I can literally see them second guessing their word choices, to find more positive things to say.  There is SO much GOOD going on– so many beautiful things, fun things, interesting things, challenging things (in a good way) – why don’t we choose to talk about those things?  In the silence, it’s easiest for us to complain — mostly, “I’m so tired”, or “today was so annoying”…try, just TRY to replace those little negative outbursts to something, anything, positive.  You’ll feel better, your tension will be eased, you’ll start looking for the good in people, in situations, AND, you are actually reshaping your brain for a more positive tomorrow.  Here’s an excerpt from the article:

The Bottom Line is This: 

The universe is chaotic, from unpreventable superstorms of wind and rain, to unpredictable car accidents or to the capricious whims of our peers whose personal truths even have the ability to emotionally damage or physically hurt others. And every moment holds the potential to bring you any one of these things, any shade along the gradient of spirit-soaring bliss and soul-crushing grief.

But regardless of what it brings your way, your choice is simple: Love or Fear. And yes, I understand it’s hard to find happiness on those nights when you feel like you’re all alone in the world, when a loved one passes, when you fail that test or get fired from that job; But when these moments come, you do not have to live in regret of them, you don’t have to give them constant negative attention and allow them to reshape your brain to the point that you become a bitter, jaded, cynical old curmudgeon that no longer notices that the very fact that they’re alive means they get to play blissfully in this cosmic playground where you get the godlike power of choice.

What you can do is say; “Yes, this sucks. But what’s the lesson? What can I take away from this to make me a better person? How can I take strength from this and use it to bring me closer to happiness in my next moment?” You see, a failed relationship or a bad day doesn’t have to be a pinion to your wings, it can be an updraft that showcases to you what things you like and don’t like, it can show you the red flags so that you can avoid them. If there was a personality your ex-partner had that drove you insane, then you now have the gift of knowing you don’t want to waste your time with another partner who acts the same way.

If you are mindful to the lessons of the failures, there is no reason that you can’t make the default of every day better than the one before it. Do something new everyday, learn its lesson, choose love over fear, and make every day better than the last. The more you do this, the more you will see and appreciate the beauty of this existence, and the happier you’ll be.

Here’s the full article, written by Steven Parton.

So SoCal, let’s start working towards a more positive version of ourselves.  Let’s start today.  Who’s with me?

By | 2016-01-20T16:13:06+00:00 January 20th, 2016|Beach, The SoCal Way|Comments Off on The Science of Happiness: Why Complaining is Literally Killing You